These are my girls! The oldest is Hailey and the youngest is Felicia. We are doing great as far as getting the household set up and getting their rooms together. We are getting along great and have set a lot of rules that we are all in agreement about. They are a big help in the house and pretty well take care of themselves and each other. We have dubbed our house the “Happy House.”
The only problem I am having is financially. When I went to sign them up for school they told me that notarized paperwork was not enough, that I had to have paperwork from an attorney. I got both of the parents here on Tuesday and found an attorney and started the proceedings for full custody. Both parents signed off on it already, however the attorney is charging me $700. I gave him half of it but it has left me pretty broke and I still owe him the other half. I can’t go get any state help until the paperwork is finished and I am beginning to panic.
I have never ask friends for help and I hate to do it now, but I am desperate. I need some help. I have borrowed out what family I can borrow from and I don’t have anyone else to ask. If it was just for me, I wouldn’t even consider asking anyone, but it’s not. It’s for these kids. I haven’t been able to work because I couldn’t get them in school and I am getting further and further behind. I do have food stamps for myself already so I have food, but I’m out of money and I have to pay this attorney and I have to have running money until I can get the paperwork so I can get on welfare.
No, the parents are not helping at all. If anything it costs me to have them around. I’m just getting panicked. It would take me a while, but I will pay back whatever I borrow. So if anyone can help, please let me know. I hate worse than anything asking, but I hate worse to let these kids down any more. I will be fine once I can get them in school, get some state help and get back to work. I can’t tell you how embarrassed I am to ask but it would be greatly appreciated.
Update: I wanted to add that, I know everyone wonders why I didn’t go to legal aid or something. I made both of the parents come out here, (I had to drive two and a half hours each way to pick up my daughter) and I had them both here at the same time and I had to do something immediately. I actually wrangled the attorney I have on the courthouse steps with both of the parents standing there and told him the situation and that I needed the paperwork drawn up NOW while I had them both here to sign it. I didn’t want to give them a chance to change their mind and try to take the kids back. So while I hate that I have put myself in the position to have to pay the money it was the only way to get it done immediately. I needed immediate custody papers to get the kids in school and to make sure I had the parents signatures before they went back home and I would have had to wait even longer to get them back out here.