Hailey and I had been having a few problems. She is an extremely smart child that no one has really spent any time motivating in the right direction. She is also full of anger and frustration that is very understandable. The combination of those attributes can be deadly in a child at her age. I have been trying desperately to feed her positive ideas of things she could be doing now to prepare for her future and most of the time she just looks at me like I’ve lost my mind.
First of all, you should know that she reads on a college level. She has been tested twice just since she moved in here. She also has a 97 average in Algebra. The teacher in that class uses her all the time to try to motivate the rest of the class. Like right now, he has told the class that if they can, as a whole, come anywhere near her average in homework, he will stop giving them homework assignments. She is both embarrassed and proud at the same time about this.
Kimber did a post a couple of weeks ago on her daughter who is about to graduate high school and college at the same time. I had never heard of this and asked her how she managed it. It turns out that there is a dual enrollment program that can be entered into during the junior and senior years that allows a child to attend college and get credits for high school classes at the same time. I checked into it and we have the program at the community college I was attending last year. I talked to Hailey about this at great length.
I told her that there is a lot of required reading for college and that since she reads on a college level, she needs to start reading some of the literary material now. She really has nothing better to do anyway. One of her complaints has been that it is boring here. This is a small town and there isn’t a whole lot to do, especially since we don’t have money to do anything. I have to say that this is the first time I have seen her truly excited about something and I finally saw a spark in her eyes this week. She not only has turned her attitude around completely, but she came home with a library book on the life of Shakespeare.
I am jumping up and down with joy! I have been so afraid that I would loose her to drugs or alcohol or just to depression alone. The prospect of being able to graduate high school and have an associates degree at the same time has sent her reeling apparently. It makes her only have two years of high school left as long as she keeps her grades up where they need to be, which I’m sure she won’t have a problem doing as long as her attitude is good.
She is such a smart girl and she has seen the things her parents have done. She knows the cold hard truths and she says she doesn’t want to follow in their footsteps. I told her she has a choice. She can be like them and do the things they have done, or she can do the right things and rise above all of this. I think she made her choice this week by taking the simple step to go to the library and check out that first book. Baby steps…success is accomplished by keeping one foot in front of the other and taking baby steps. I finally feel like we are moving forward.