How Do You Do It!
I am so frustrated! How do you break a child from telling lies and sneaking to do things? I am having such a hard time with Felicia. First of all, she won’t let me get close to her and it gets more difficult every day to even try because she lies every time she opens her mouth. I can catch her red handed doing something and she will stand there and swear she isn’t doing it. I’ve never done anything to really punish her. I don’t believe in hitting and I have rarely grounded them. I have been known to raise my voice because I’m soooooo frustrated but that’s it. Her daddy and step mother would whip the daylights out of her or Hailey and they stayed grounded for something or another all the time. I just don’t believe in that. So what am I supposed to do?
My immediate problem is she got in here early one morning while I was sleeping and made a Facebook page. Hailey has one and she has rules about it and I read her page pretty regularly. She’s only allowed to have people on there from school and she has to be able to tell me exactly who people are that are on her friends page at any given time. We haven’t had any problems with it and it’s much better than having to listen to her talk on the phone all the time, especially in the small space we are in. Felicia had asked to get on Facebook and I told her no, that she wasn’t old enough yet. She did it behind my back and I caught her because she sent Hailey a friends request and Hailey told me about it.
Felicia swore up and down, even after I showed her that the computer kept a history of everything that was done on here, that she didn’t do it. “Oh,” I said, “I guess someone came in here this morning and made a page using your name?” She still insists today that she didn’t do it. (This happened about a month ago.) She’s been grounded from the computer at all until she can own up to doing it, but she won’t give in. I’ve asked her about it about once a week since it happened and she still swears she didn’t do it.
Today I left for a little while to go and get some stuff for my brother and when I came back she was on Facebook. I said, “What are you doing on Facebook? What are you even doing on the computer?” She was trying hard to get the page shut down before I could get across the room and I got to her and moved her hand off of the mouse to stop her. With the page still up, she still tried to tell me that she was not on Facebook! How do you deal with this?
Yes, I have already pass worded the entire computer and I normally log it off before I walk out the door but this was one time I forgot to do it because so much is going on with my brother here doing construction on my house. I don’t want to have to log off of the computer. I want her to be honest and do or not do what I tell her to do. So, how do I get us to that point? I’m just so frustrated.
You know, when you raise your own children, you start teaching them certain things at two and three years old that are like building blocks to other things as you go. I’ve come in, in the middle of these kids’ lives and there are so many things that they weren’t taught at all and they have so many bad habits that need to be broken. Some nights I go to bed and cry myself to sleep because I’m so frustrated and just absolutely exhausted. I’m hoping someone has some suggestions. It’s not like I can or want to just give up. Something has to give though.